There is a multitude of ways to deal with the stressors of divorce. In the event that you have children with your ex, you will also need to balance their needs along with the needs of yourself and your ex-partner during this time. For multiple reasons, this can be challenging.
“Nesting” is a living arrangement that many divorcing families choose to assuage these challenges. As per NBC News, a “nesting” arrangement only has one parent in the home at the same time, while the children reside in the house 24/7.
Who is nesting good for?
Nesting is a good option for ex-partners that are on amicable terms. It is not possible to nest with an ex whom you cannot work closely with. Even though you and your ex will no longer be residing in the family home at the same time, you will still need to coordinate food supplies, bills, appointments for the children and more.
Nesting is also good for families that need more time to figure out the steps after divorce. Nesting can provide this time.
How does nesting work?
You will need to decide on a schedule with your ex, regarding when you are in the house with the children and when you will not. Usually, the parent who is not in the house will stay with family or friends in temporary nesting situations. In more long-term nesting arrangements, often the parents will rent a studio apartment so that there is privacy for the non-resident partner.
All divorces are different, and what works for one family may not work for another. Nesting is a conscious approach to separating the family that solves a lot of problems for many.